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Sex: “Using Sex as a weapon.”

SEX

“Using sex as a weapon!”

Sex is meant to be enjoyed in a healthy way in a relationship, it should never be a weapon nor should it be used for transactional purposes in relationships.

People use sex to attract favors and many others use it to make themselves feel good inside. Sex is never a measure of love and one should never use it to seek validation.

I don’t care much about women who use sex for transactional purposes because those women are simply prostitutes who sell themselves for trinkets. I’m more concerned about women who use sex to endear themselves to men.

Male validation is a disease that is slowly consuming our women in our societies. Women who are desperate for praise and sexual attention don’t respect their own perspectives about themselves or those of other women.

I see women twerking on social media everyday and one would think they simply love dancing but psychological, most are simply screaming for male attention. Shaking their asses for all to see and the comments that men offer after viewing those statuses make them feel sexy or beautiful. Women desperately want men to find them sexually appealing and nowadays they do not care if we objectify them as men because to them that is simple validation for their beauty.

I see women gallivanting the streets semi-naked and it’s normal for us to think that it’s simply what is fashionable these days but the competition to attract the opposite gender is stiff nowadays. It’s dog eat dog when it comes to oozing sexual appeal in our streets off late and women have become so narcissistic to the extent of shunning modesty.

I hear women bemoaning the fact that men objectify them too much yet they have opened themselves up to such objectification. I see campaigns running today that scream “A MINISKIRT IS NOT A YES” when speaking against violent sexual crimes but noone is talking about “cause and effect”. Men are attracted to what they see and women are attracted to words/compliments.

When men see, they want and when women hear, they crave! I don’t condone nor do I excuse rape but women have also made it easy for men who are easily excitable when they see to be attracted to them and some will violently get what is out of reach to them. That is not the pith of this discussion, I was just passing through. Don’t tease them if you can’t please them!

The fact is, women have a tendency to equate sexual acceptance to personal value. It is normal to feel good about yourself when people like you but it is sick to use sex or your sexuality for clout and likes.

Women should learn that their whole lives are not about pleasing men sexually because that comes naturally to almost every woman. Real men ultimately settle for a woman of substance and not for a sex symbol. Every woman is sexy in her own right and different things appeal to different men of different calibres. Seek to grow yourself beyond the physical lest you become just a trophy girlfriend or a trophy wife.

Women use sex to control men and solicit the kind of response they want in any setting with a men. Sex is a manipulation tool and it works all the time on many unassuming men and women alike. Never seek love or attention through sex because people will disappoint you in the end. Rather seek to cultivate strong interpersonal relationships based on honesty, friendship, love and everything that is true.

Also, never try to validate someone’s feelings of inadequacy, sadness, anger, anxiety and or feelings of insecurity through sex. Yes, it is important to recognize and value each other’s feelings in a relationship but there are better ways to validate those feelings other than through sex.

Men and women in relationships use sex to apologise for different reasons and they also use it to pacify contentious situations in their relationships. That is very wrong because the prevailing problems will not go away through sex, it’s just like sweeping dirt under the carpet. We can only validate each other’s feelings by talking things through, listening to each other and by empathizing with each other while apologizing to each other as necessary.

External validation is fleeting, compliments dry up and people easily move on from that which is trivial to them. Always seek to cultivate self-love because self-care is an inside job. Know that you important, you are beautiful and you are valuable just the way you are. Seek self-development everytime and your self-esteem should be built upon a self-identity that is not superficial.


By McDennias H. Moyo
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Yes, men are dogs!

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When sorry is not enough

When sorry is not enough

We have created this world of hurt,
said some words that are even curt,
we can't even recognize the care;
the love and the friendship we used to share.

We were never careful with our words,
we never cared to stop when it hurts,
our love was always riddled with pain,
we lost us and misery we continue to gain.

Our hearts care but we are prideful,
our past spells of a future so hurtful,
because what used to haunt us is still present,
and our present predicament is not an accident.

Talking about issues has never solved anything;
it aggravates things and it is never absolving,
we have always dared to call each other's bluff,
and we never knew what to do when sorry is not enough!

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My Everyday Valentine

My Everyday Valentine
"Oratio meum Valentine"

"Manus in manu ambulant"
Walking hand in hand,
With our hearts intertwined
And our souls completely affined.
In that moment we are defined!

"Nunc scio quid sit amor est,"
Now I know what love is.
It is not a perfect union of hearts;
But an imperfect harmony of all parts,
And it's about becoming each other's ramparts.

"In caricate et nos dimittus"
In love we forgive
And every conflict is an opportunity;
To grow and to assert our unity,
And to charm our way back to amiability.

"Caritus omnia vincit"
Our love conquers all things,
And it has withstood the test of time;
It has forgiven every ill and every crime.
Im absolutely proud to call you mine.

"Melle abundat caritas"
Our love overflows with honey
And your sensual kisses are delicious;
Lips so nutritious and never malicious.
How serene! Your love is never vicious.

"Im 'figit animum, amare"
I'm madly in love with you,
I love all your strengths and weaknesses;
Our love has overcome all biases
And I will forever claim you in front of witnesses.

"Tu mihi semper et in seacular saeculorum"
You are my always and forever!
In perpetuity, you will always be mine;
To love and to hold till the end of time
And you will forever be "My Everyday Valentine!"


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My love – My Everyday Valentine

My Love

You are as beautiful as the sky;
Adorned with all the stars and the moon,
And the sun is your crowning jewel
Your smile is like a new ray of dawn,
So calming and so full of promise.
Yes, you are my love and my Valentine!

Oh how your eyes entrap my soul
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To trap and captivate my heart for eternity
And I promise never to shy away from your gaze,
Because through your eyes I see my tomorrow clearly.
Yes, you are my love and my Valentine!

Your voice will forever be my favorite melody,
Because its symphonies command peace within me
In my darkest moments, it guides me back to the light.
Its lullabies extricate my insomnia,
And it commands my darkest demons to obscurity.
Yes, you are my love and my Valentine!

Your very sensual touch massages my soul,
It calms my every struggle and it soothes every nerve.
I pray your touch lingers a little while longer on me
And may it continue to dispense pleasure without reservations;
Creating poetry on my body, the haikus & the sonnets.
Yes, you are my lover and my Valentine!

I swear I love you now without thinking,
Because my pride might stand in the way of my happiness.
You take my breath away and yet I feel so alive;
In your embrace and within your gaze my life is defined.
Call me crazy but I know I have already arrived
Yes, you are my love and my Valentine!

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My friend – My Everyday Valentine

My Friend

We are like yin and yang
"Forever" is the song our hearts sang
You are not just my lover but also my friend
And when I'm broken, you pick up the pieces to mend

When pressed on all sides, you are my relief
You wrestle all my demons for my pain causes you grief
I feel guilty having to lean on you that much
But our lives are intertwined and you are more than just a crutch

Without your love I would be lost in the maze
And your very existence sets my whole being ablaze
It is only your love that can quell this conflagration
Yes, it is your sweet nature that cements this affiliation

You fight all my battles with valor
Your candor & your loyalty i admire
You are worthy my Eurasian Rose, my eglantine
You are my best friend and my Valentine!

By McDennias H. Moyo
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